I don’t want to be a feminist anymore. Like a five-year-old, I want to close my eyes, stick my fingers in my ears, stomp my feet on the floor and scream “No! No, you cannot make me, I won’t, leave me alone!” I am, simply put, too tired. So very, very tired.
I am tired of fighting with my friends. I am tired of arguing that someone groping and slapping my butt isn’t “what I have to expect”, just because I’m at a bar, and the one attacking my butt has a drink in the other hand. I am tired of hearing “boys will be boys” and “when you’re dressed like that …” and “that’s just what guys do”. I am tired of trying to drown those sentiments in loud, repetitive no’s, screamed over and over again, till my throat is sore and my voice weak – just to hear them repeated, as soon as exhaustion threatens to silence me.
I am tired of being afraid. I am tired of seeing someone writing something offensive, sexist, racist, ageist, ableist, somewhere online. I am tired of seeing those writings getting likes and lol’s, and SO TRUE’s. I am tired of being consumed by confusion and anger, typing, typing, typing and typing a seemingly endless response, including research, links and statistics, and then hesitate clicking “submit”. I am tired of knowing that I hesitate because I am afraid of the flood of responses that will come. I am tired of knowing that I will be bombarded with lighten up’s, stop whining’s and get a sense of humor’s for so long, that I will start to wonder if I am indeed wound up too tight, a nagger and humorless. I am tired of the fact that I’m afraid of being called a cunt, even though I don’t find genitalia insulting or demeaning.
One of the things that i think is so interesting about those two is the symbolism behind them are opposite to their actual personalities. Davos is water and blue, but he’s actually hot-blooded one, he’s the one with the vocal opinions, with the exceptionally moral view of the world, Mel is all about fire, but she’s increadibly calm, even when her life is in danger and, as passionate as she is, she tries (and does always succeed) in letting her emotions dictate any of her actions.
Their similarities lay in what they are, and their differences lay in how they think and what they believe in. They both grew up in diffucult situations (with Davos being poor and then a criminal, and Mel being an abused slave) but Davos became less dangerous as growing older, with him softening from a criminal to what he is now, an honest man intent to serve his king, and Mel became far far more threatening as her loyalty to the Lord of Light grew, who is not a kind god in any way. They are still both the two “lowest” advisors out there, but they are the only advisors that are respected by Stannis, the only ones who he truly listens to.
1. Whenever someone is angry and confrontational, stand next to them instead of in front of them. You won’t appear as so much of a threat, and they eventually calm…